let me give you the run down of her and her family.
she is in her early 50's
her oldest son is 18
her youngest son is 12
her two daughters are i think 7 and 8 or 9
first i'll discuss her. her logic is astounding. for example, she honestly believe that if the other neighbors dont complain that means they're ok with whatever is going on. maybe they dont want to say something because they're afraid that by saying something it could make it worse for them. she also firmly believs that in order for her to be able to clean and keep the house and yard clean she needs a man. her younger son once had a hissy fit last year, called her a bitch and all used all kinds of nice vulgar language and then hit the mailbox knocking it off the post. her exact comment to him was she doesnt know how she's going to get mail now because she doesnt have a man to fix that. like other NFH she comes and goes almost constantly. so because she doesnt actually sit in her filthy house all the time she actually doesnt understand why we're tired of what goes on and more importantly what doesnt go on over on her property. she is very indecisive. at one point she'll agree with you and then changes her mind 2 minutes later, sometimes less than that. like she would agree that all the kids shouldnt be all over her cars but then doesnt want to go out and tell them to stay off her cars. which leads into another problem, she wanted ME to say something. i told her it wasnt my property and not my job, it was hers and i would support her but i would not do it for her. to this day she has yet to tell anyone even her own kids to stay off the cars. she believes she is being harassed by us. up until this year we didnt really say anything to her but things got so bad this year we had to start saying something. originally i went over and talked her about the stuff going on around her house, the fence falling apart, the cars parked in her yard (a violation) as well as the undriveable car in her driveway, the pool she has done nothing with in 3 years, the weeds in her back yard, the garbage in her backyard. and every time i talked to her it was the same old excuses, she doesnt have a man, she doesnt have time (big fat lie) and would start the sob story about being a single mom (my mom was a single mom and didnt pull this crap) at no time has she ever said she was sorry for all the mess, she has never expressed any remorse and acts very unapologetic about the way she lives. she honestly believes the way she lives is within her rights and really feels i'm just picking on her.
her oldest son is a trip. he's 18 and acts like a wannabe gangster with his loud music coming from his blazer. this was the same kid who was bullied away from his own goal by some of the very same people he hangs out with now and calls his friends. i almost feel sorry him and then i am often reminded that he thinks whatever he does that annoys other people gives him pleasure. he laughs about it and thinks its hilarious to bother people with his music and behavior. he's a drug dealer, i've talked to 2 of his former buyers and i've tried to get the cops to catch him but they're as useful as a football bat anymore. he considers no one but himself. when he was still living next door his friends would come over and park in our yard or in front of our house. well they're not my friends and i dont want them parked in my yard or in front of my house, especially since they would have plenty of space if his mom got rid of all the cars broken down on her property. at the moment he comes and goes but never really stays, he hasnt slept there in months and im hoping he continues to be a visitor more than a resident again.
his brother the 12 year is a future felon in the making. this boy has been caught throwing cans of paint at the back of the other on the other side of their house, throws trash where ever he wants and allows his friends to influence his actions. i cant remember everything the boy has done but he has shot airsoft pellets at our house many times. i've been finding them in our mulch mostly, he has a thing for shooting the house directly. yes i did say something to her, her response? talk to him. well that's not my job, YOU are the parent YOU talk to him, act like a parent for crying out loud.
her two daughters to put it kindly, are morons. near two months ago they were playing and kept going out into the street and not bothering to look. in fact this habit of going out into the street without looking is something they've been doing for years. well near two months ago a mustang damn near ran them over. while the NFH seemed somewhat concerned she never even got off her porch to take them inside or anything. she said something to them that they could get killed and the one girl said she didnt care. i view that comment as a sign that her life sucks and i blame her mother for that 100%. no child 7-9 years old should be making comments like that. both her daughters have smart mouths and will mouth off to anyone they want.
now for more behavior in more detail.
our NFH loves to celebrate the seasons and holidays, mostly xmas, easter, halloween and her kids' birthdays. i'm ok with this but from the same person who cant even spare 5 minutes cleaning up her own yard and has no money to fix one section of her fence has somehow managed to buy decorations every year for easter halloween and xmas and her kids birthday's.
she LOVES taking pictures. for no reason. she'll just go out and take pictures of her kids, whoever is around. i'm baffled by her behavior. i guess she's too busy being allen funt to clean her house or yard, poor her.
currently she has this habit of parking anywhere but in her own driveway. why you may ask? because she one broken down camaro that is not driveable by any means (her younger son's friends caved in the windshield and her oldest son wrecked and bent the sub frame) so she parks in her yard (a violation) or parks in the former neighbor's driveway across the street. she's been told numerous times to remove the cars in her driveway and i guess because i've mentioned it her before she's either refusing to do anything because she thinks that means i'll "win" or she really enjoys making everyone else misrable aorund her. i'm not real sure. i forgot to mention she had a blue dodge that she had to keep putting 20 bucks into every day for gas because she never changed the oil never did any kind of maintenance on it at all.
the backyard is a nightmare. while we've spent years fixing ours up planting, building a new deck and trying to turn our backyard into a sanctuary for us, she has turned her own backyard into a living hell. the trash, the rusty metal that was everywhere, the pool that sat undrained for 3 years, the weeds and now the fence between our properties. some years ago we had to call the cops on her older son because he was playing music in the house way too loud on new years eve. he knew it annoyed us, i'd go outside, he'd see us and give a smartass grin then turn it up more or he'd turn it down and then turn it back up after i went back inside. the cops were there when she finally showed up (i forgot to mention no adults were home and her oldest was no older than 14 at the time) and she gives them this bullshit about how we're just nosy neighbors. the cops explained to her that if we can hear the music in our house we have every legal right to complain. not that she buys that, she just thinks we do this to harass her.
well the same thing applies to a stinky smelly pool that is a breeding ground for mosquitos, we have every legal right to complain about that, the fence the trash, the cars. all of it. she doesnt seem to get into her head that there are laws against every thing she has been doing the past few years.the towing of a buick.
earlier this year her older son was driving a POS buick and had problems with the steering, not sure what, all i know is the thing leaked like a sieve. so he parked it in front of her house one day and just left it. i had talked to her about that and the camaro to see what they were doing with them. she kept hemming and hawing about having them hauled off to a junkyard but her indecisiveness won that battle so she kept flipflopping whether to try and sell them (unlikely) or just junk them ( a sure bet no matter what) well i got tired of seeing the buick sit half in their yard (again a violation) but i just waited to see what happened. well one day i go outside and there are cops next door. WTF? noone was home so i had no idea why there were there. our other neighbor says they're there for the buick and sure enough a wrecker showed up and hauled it off. according to our NFH when she called the police regarding the car being towed off they told her someone reported it. guess who got blamed first? us and we never reported her for it. i didnt even know cops could come out and haul off a car like that and if i had i would have called it in myself earlier than when it did happen. anyway she blames us or the neighbors across the street for calling. i've never lied to her and ive always told her what i was going to do. she doesnt understand why i would lie about this but is still convinced we called and had the car hauled off. she complained about fines to get the car back. well as far as i know she never paid them to get the car back and let the city keep it. again i didnt report it but if she had called a junkyard instead of looking at fines she would have gotten some cash for the car. yet somehow in her mind she thinks it's everyone elses fault and has only served to make her more paranoid.
my business your business our business
our NFH has this weird view on what is and isnt other people's business. if the appearance of her home lowers the property value of other people's homes, that makes it everyone else's business. she views it as no one's business but hers. except when she wanted me to chase the kids away when she wasnt there, wanted me to tell the kids to stay off her car, etc. suddenly its my business but if its something like the pool suddenly she thinks its not my business anymore. unless it crosses the property line, i normally dont care what she does. but her fence between our property lines IS our business as its leaning over and threatening to fall apart onto our property. because she has a pool she is required by law to have and maintain a fence. she believes we should simply our own fence. legally we are not required to so we are not going to do her job for her. i did offer to fix her fence if she bought the supplies needed. more of the same excuses, i dont have money, i dont have time, i dont have a way to get it here. i even told her i'd get the stuff since her lazy 18 year old son is too busy getting high with his buddies to do anything for his own mother. still more excuses from her even then.
insurance fraud?
if you make a legitimate claim on the roof of your house and you spend that money on something else besides the repair of the roof is that not insurance fraud? last year back in september/october we had hurricance force winds blow through our area and some roofs were damaged. her's was one but did nothing to get it fixed for a year. she finally got it fixed a couple weeks ago but not before she took the money her insurance company gave her and spent it on the 3rd (and only one running) car she currently drives. so i dont know how she paid for the roof since she admitted to me she spent the insurance money on the car. she also admitted the roof has been leaking into two of the rooms in the house.
parent, what parent
our NFH is no kind of parent. i never see her kids being punished, the disrespect that comes from them at her is amazing. she doesnt provide a clean house or yard for them to play in, i cant imagine what their diets are like. i have seen them at the store shopping, lots of junkfood. guess she doesnt have any money for real food? she doesnt give her kids any rules or boundaries and then wonders why nobody seems to like her or her kids. i once explained to her a long time ago that you can be a parent or a friend, you can be both and certainly not at the same time. being a parent means having to tell your children things they may not like, tough luck, they're kids and dont really get a say in what rules and boundaries are set for them. and just like with the kids and her cars she wants me to say something to her kids. again it is not my job, that is hers as a parent. i'm not arguing with a child over their behavior, i've gone through it too many times with other kids in the neighborhood, i'm not doing it anymore. i should also mention how most of the time her kids get home from school she isnt here. i dont mind the 12 year old coming home alone, though i dont think he's responsible enough to take care of himself i'm more disturbed by her two daughters that come home alone and are left there till whenever she comes home, sometimes the time between them coming home and her getting home last year was hours and hours every day. i think this year she's tried to find arrangements to make sure someone is there when her daughter get home but its only a half hearted gesture.
the climbing tree
for some reason some of the kids, especially her younger son's friends would come over and climb the tree. even if noone was there that didnt stop them. they would climb the tree, hang out on their property, play basketball, after all noone there ever tells them these things are not acceptable. fact is if one kid gets hurt on her property, even if she is not there their parents could try to hold her responsible and sue her. eventually the kids stopped climbing every day but still do on ocassion. now i dont care if kids climb trees, i did it when i was a kid but they broke or cracked 3-4 of the limbs by climbing too high up in the tree, a good 20-25 feet in the air. i wouldnt shed a tear if some kid got hurt and she was sued and had to sell the house, i just dont think people should run the risk though. i only did with her what i would do with any neighbor. her kids and their friends also climb the tree in the next yard over, a small flowering tree they're going to kill one day. but heaven forbid she come outside and makes sure they dont trespass on other people's property left alone ensure they dont climb other people's trees. again no rules, no boundaries.
the swimming pool
BEFORE the swimming pool became a cesspool and breeding ground for mosquitos her kids and her kids' friends loved to swim in the pool. i like pools but her kid's friends has this awful habit of coming over while they werent there and swam anyway. again i explained to her why this was risky and why it was important she set rules and boundaries and enforce them before some kid got hurt or drowned to death. again she never bothered to set rules and boundaries regarding the pool. i'm glad the pool isnt usable but now the pool breeds mosquitos during the year and we have had confirmed cases of west nile in this city before. as a person in high risk categories for certain illness and more prone to infection i dont appreciate her BS attitude and not give a damn mindset about the pool.
the basketball goal
this thing has been an ongoing nightmare for years. back when her oldest was about 13 or 14 they gave him a mobile basketball goal! awesome! originally it was place on the property line between our two houses but after cleaning up her kids and her kids' friends trash every day, after getting tired of the kids sitting on and climbing all over the car i moved it to their other property line. i know this only moved the problem over to her other neighbor's yard and i dont want that but we're not going to tolerate people trashing our yard and my car. since i moved it, he's had i think 2 more goals since they never take care of anything and would leave it out on the street for months or years allowing anyone who felt like having a pick up game have a game if they felt like. again this thing would sit out and attract the trouble making kids while her and kids would be away from the house most of the day. and she wondered why us and our neighbor across the street from her got tired of her her kids and her kids friends. again, no rules no boundaries even though it has bothered other people she thinks its none of our business.
now i understand she cant really control other people's kids but when they're on her property and they're there to see her kids she needs to make herself and her kids more aware of respecting others and take actions to ensure those kids respect her her property and her neighbors. but again, no rules, no boundaries, just do whatever you want and then cry harassment when people get mad.
the ex boyfriend
so her ex boyfriend comes over about 5 weeks ago and tried picking a fist fight with me. why? because i reported her twice. i wasnt trying to report her twice but the state seemed to be moving very slowly on the situation so i filed another report and made mention of them moving slowly and filing another report. anyway he comes over and is all pissed off spewing off a bunch of stuff i STILL cannot make sense of. best i can figure he was mad about us reporting her. his oldest son, not related to her was there and he was also trying to pick a fight with me at the same time and was going on abuot reporting the NFH's 18 year old son, i guess his half brother or some crap. making threats that if i reported him again for his lous music blah blah blah. i've been busy but i plan on going downtown to take out a warrant on her ex for assaulting me (he kicked me in the leg and thanks to my medication i had a near black bruise that lasted about 2 weeks) as as well as seeking restraining against him and his oldest son. her ex also accused me of "pushing" one of the kids around to one of our neighbors. im not sure which way he means, either physically or verbally but i've done neither.
as far as i'm concerned i feel like we're the ones being harassed and i feel like we're being subjected to the kind of harassment the courts wouldn't know how to handle. like her son shooting air soft pellets at out house. what am i suppose to do about that? there's no damage (yet) so what can i do? its a misdemeanor and unless the cops see it, they cant do anything (which is there mantra for everything including the felony breaking and entering of our neighbor's house)
aside from one time where i went over and threatened to report her for everything that goes on after getting tired of seeing paintballs in our yard because her oldest bought a paintball gun and decided to let his younger siblings play with it AFTER i told to her about it, i have been nice polite and as civil as i know how to be. i have offered to help her if i could so its not like i went over told her to "get it done" and then made no effort to find a solution that worked for everyone. every step of the way she has had excuses, she doesnt have a man, she's busy (working part time as a hallmark store isnt busy and her kids have no extra curricular activities), she doesnt have money (she's tried claiming she doesnt even have the money for bags of concrete to fix her fence)
the last communication was her leaving a note on our stairs like a coward telling us to find someone else to harass and to build our own fence.
the law is clear and she is violating the law. her running her mouth to her ex boyfriend who only knows she she tells him and never bothered to learn what is really going on isnt helping her cause since i think she had him come over to harass me and try and intimidate me. her claim was she had no idea he came over to measure her roof, BS i say. she had no problem whipping that phone out trying to call her ex boyfriend when the neighbor took the goal from her kids so i have no doubt she fed him a bunch of crap and worked him up into a lather hoping that he would get me to back down.
she also threatened us with a harassment lawsuit after the indicent with her ex boyfriend too. i hope she does. her life and what she does will be on trial as much as my reporting her will be, if not more so. we have broken no laws and i have had to ensure my wife doesnt do anything stupid. after this last go around with her ex boyfriend trying to pick a fight with me my wife was livid with our NFH. as long as they continue to break the law and harass us, it takes away their chances of winning anything against us.
now i have reported her twice for the trash, the weeds, the cars, the pool the fence. i have looked up codes regarding the fence and by law she has to have and maintain a fence as long as she has a pool. the state is SLOWLY working on the issue and while i understand i can be impatient at times. fact is the second time i reported her it was 5 weeks AFTER they came out the first time, we've been living with this for years and we're tired of it. even our relatively new neighbor who thought maybe i was being hard on her now sees she's just being a bad neighbor and couldnt see himself living next to her without getting mad.
i feel like i'm losing my sanity because of her and her kids. every time i hear her older son's music my heart rate and blood pressure go through the roof. every time her kids' friends come over i feel like i have to constantly look at my windows. i wasnt like this before but after cleaning up after her kids and her kids' friends and telling them constantly to stay our of our yard i feel like the only way to ensure it doesnt happen again is to constantly watch as we know she never does.
when she is home, she never goes outside. her excuse is she's always busy doing something inside. like what? it certainly isnt cleaning. other neighbors KNOW what her house is like, they're either seen it or been in it. i have witnesses to speak on my behalf if she's actually stupid enough to try and sue us. she has not one neighbor on the street that can speak for her or would. lets not mention the fact she's been caught by two other neighbors giving head to guys in her driveway, once with her kid standing at the front door watching. FANTASTIC! apparently it doesnt occur to her to take the guy inside for that crap. again no rules, no boundaries, just do whatever you want and then blame everyone else when they complain.
feel free, ask questions, make comments. what i've mentioned is just a nutshell or some of the stuff that we've had to put up with. its been compounded by another problem; a few years ago they built section 8 housing behind our houses our other neighbor's realtor lied to him and said it wasnt section 8 housing but he didnt find out till after he bought the house and moved in.
i cant and must not allow this crap to go on. this was a fairly nice neighborhood before and it should be that way again. the NHF has just been a cherry on the sundae for us. originally everyone had problems with the people in the section 8 housing, especially the kids but now its mostly us and her immediate neighbors since they attract the worst kids around.
if i back down then they will think they can do whatever they want. i dont think her or her ex boyfriend will be happy if i take out a warrant and try to get restraining orders against him and his oldest son but if i dont then he'll think he can come over and do it again and again and i cant allow that. i refuse to be a victim to bullying and intimidation and with my medical problems i dont want or need this crap from him and her.
So I reported them. Knowing it would all be our fault we dedcided to report them because NOTHING will change the situation. Fence, no fence, etc. They were forced to put up a fence. $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ I would do it again in a heartbeat. The problem escalated but ended in NFH drunk-man being found guilty of assaulting me. Given a not-so-shabby-fine I might add. Just yesterday NFH daughter's skank boyfriend was staring into my house while walking down the street. (you know they tell their side of the story to every ear that will listen while we have moved on) I was inside at the window taking down the Halloween decorations ansd he gave me a huge wave. NFH and kid were with him. I hope his pick-up made it home all right 
